An Adventure of Transformation and Depth Awaits You.
Welcome
You matter. Your experience matters. Your perceptions matter.
As living breathing human beings, we live in a relational world rather than a transactional one. We impact one another, ourselves and every part of our being, relationally. We start by caring for ourselves because we matter, and then caring for others because they matter equally.
When we live relationally from the ground of our Being, there is space for each one of us just as we are. We belong.
Meet Marcia Haarer
When we open to transformational moments, we find an aliveness in ourselves. We open to a depth in our experience, deeper than the surface content of the moment.
There is a geography to Being that I can teach you to feel within your body. Aligned within the subtle core of your body, you can feel settled and "at home". You may be able to experience deep contact with yourself. By learning to let go within this subtle core, you can transform your limiting and painful experiences that you, like all of us, cling to so tightly.
Traumatizing experiences often block our access to Wholeness and feeling internally resourced
When we grow up in a traumatizing environment, we often feel separate and alone in our experience. Ironically, we may even grow up with parents who are loving but are carrying their own generational burden of grief. It may not be a traumatizing environment at all, but the markers of past trauma may still be held in the bodies of well-intentioned parents. As children we absorb and mirror these markers of past trauma in our attachments to them.
This experience fragments us. Growing up without the resources of loving adults or a way to process what we are feeling, we reach the conclusion that “it’s all my fault” and we feel even more separate, alone, and in despair.
Trauma can leave us in an unprocessed state of shock, a state of disbelief. Shock is the body’s way of helping us survive an event, but it needs to be released and processed to have access to the deeper experience of an event. With the skills of somatic processing, we can process trauma.
The Realization Process offers a powerful, precise and effective method for releasing trauma held in our thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations deep within our body, psyche, and nervous system. By going to the source or origin of the suffering, the release is deeper and potentially permanent. Dr. Judith Blackstone created the Realization Process, a method for spiritual awakening to one’s deepest nature and undistorted identity as Consciousness.
Offerings
I offer a highly personalized approach tailored to each of my clients individual needs to help attain the personal growth they’re striving for.
Private Individual Work
Realization Process Meditation Teacher Training
We will explore various aspects of the Realization Process in themed courses and group series. The current course offering is Healing the Five Human Qualities: Gender, Power, Love, Voice, and Intelligence.
This training teaches the main Realization Process practices for embodied nondual awakening, and their application to Meditation. The Realization Process practices can help people access a dimension of themselves that has never been injured, that is deeper and more subtle than even the most strongly held negative beliefs, depression and anxiety.
Courses and Series
"As Presence we can experience ourselves as possessing permeable but clear boundaries between ourselves and our environment. Inhabiting our body as a whole produces a felt sense of ourselves as a complete form, distinct from other forms. This means that we are able to feel separate from the world around us and still be open and responsive. As this separate, internally unified form, we experience our individuality, and our ownership of our thoughts, feelings, sensations, and perceptions. We experience self-possession.”
Trauma and the Unbound Body, Judith Blackstone
The Realization Process
The practices of the Realization Process were initially created by Dr Blackstone to heal herself from her own traumatic back injury as a young professional modern dancer. She succeeded in healing herself from the fragmentation in her body and psyche, and in the process, had a profound spiritual awakening. She became aware that the practices she was using for her healing deliver both awakening and healing experiences. She then began to teach it to thousands of people. When anyone does the Realization process practices, the steps are easy to follow and can be replicated by anyone interested in being a student. The Realization Process is both a method of attuning to the pervasive space of the Unified Field of Consciousness to realize one’s highest identity, and also a means to find deep trauma in the body, and to heal from the fragmentation and suffering that trauma creates.
Within the Realization Process is a radical and simple embodiment method to attune to the human Qualities of gender, power, love, voice and intelligence. When we do this, these Qualities can be felt in the Unified Field of the body as undeniable truths of our being. We feel like ourselves, with our own experience of gender, access to pure undistorted power, unconditional love, clarity of voice and our own intelligence. It is at once ordinary and profoundly empowering. We feel distinctly connected without being merged or enmeshed with another. We feel authentically ourself and disentangled.
Become Yourself, Whole and Free.
Become One with your Transformational Moments
Most of us have experienced a feeling of internal aliveness and exhilaration while watching an exciting sporting event. As observers we vicariously join in the athlete’s transformational performance. Exceptional athletes can appear to somehow move outside of time, transcending the usual constraints of gravity.
We watch basketball players who move with fluid grace and who seemingly can’t miss the hoop, gymnasts who move through space as if held by and suspended in space. We often call this the zone or flow. Moment to moment, this becomes a flowing movement. These experiences serve as a reminder that transformational moments are accessible to each of us and are a key to our fundamental happiness and wellbeing.
Recognize and live within your transformational moments
For some people a transformational moment is so common that it isn’t even seen as transformational. Ordinary learning becomes transformational when it changes our experience of ourselves and the world. A simple example is our childhood experience of beginning to learn to read. At first there are letters on the page. As if by magic the letters become words. By looking at the letters D then O then G, suddenly there is an understanding of the letters as the word dog, the animal dog, the image of a dog. What’s remarkable is that this “magic” can be understood and replicated, again and again, to create more learning and more transformational moments. One of the essential keys to replicating the transformational moment of learning is allowing a natural curious openness to take the lead, a sense of wonder.
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Marilyn is my friend and tennis partner, and we frequently enjoy playing doubles against people younger and stronger. She has a joyful curiosity that results in her frequently being ready with a story, and the attitude “I wonder what will happen today?”
I love the story that she tells about visiting Venice Italy in the 1960’s with her husband and young children.
It was a nasty February, and their hotel had poor heat and was cold and damp. The layout of the rooms was such that the bathroom was at the end of a long shared hallway. After teaching her children how to knit in the frigid hotel room, she was cold. So she decided she wanted a bath to get warm. Only to discover the bathtub had no faucet to fill the tub; however there was a sink next to the tub.
She went to the front desk to inquire about filling the tub, and was told the person who had the tube to connect the sink to fill the tub was not there until the next day. So she went back to her room and noticed that there was a hollow curtain rod in her room, and she remembered “ah! I have baggies and rubber bands in my suitcase!”
She then asked her children “do you want to help me fill the bathtub improvising with the curtain rod, rubber bands and baggies?” They declined. On her own, she went down the hall and rigged up a flow of hot water from the sink to the bathtub with the curtain rod, the rubber bands, and the baggies. Now she was able to have a warm bath and get warm.
Now, hearing the story ask yourself, if this were your situation, where would you likely get stuck or stopped? Would you give up? Would you yell in frustration at the person at the front desk, or your kids for not helping? Could you happily wait until the next day? I think if Marilyn hadn’t found the baggies and rubber bands, she would have adapted and waited.
Seeing our potential for agency through our transformational stories
Often our movement into transformation includes some struggle. In fact, you may find that your sense of agency is more engaged when people block you, or you have a deadline, or you must explain yourself. For other people, having these obstacles leaves them stuck or disconnected from their agency.
When someone or something in your life got in your way, what did you do?
Did you accommodate, withdraw, or concede? Did you get scared, angry or resentfully collect a grudge? Did you fall apart?
Did you get creative and adapt to find a solution to get your needs met without having to compromise the original intent of the goal?
What are some of the key stories in your life where you met and overcame obstacles, and experienced transformation?
These stories have the potential to inform and reveal how you see yourself, and how you meet the world.